Why Blame God For Our Own Faults

I have been trying to figure out why so many of us are incompetent and lazy and i have found a very interesting reason for that.  We as a Muslims have a firm believe that everything that happens to us either good or bad, somehow all the time, God is responsible for all our actions for example like when someone dies in a car accident we say that it was a God’s will without realizing that it was the fault of our own because we were over speeding and we broke the red light or when someone fails in business or when someone doesn’t gets a job or when a Air Plane carrying 148 Passengers crashes we always say it’s a God will and make ourselves feel good and move on. This is how we easily blame God for all our faults, incompetence, inability and inefficiency and we never take any responsibility for our actions. We don’t focus on the harsh realities that were actually the cause of bad things. Just like PIA cannot save lives only by doing sadqa(Charity to prevent bad things) before flight it can do it by improving technical maintenance of Air planes because one lac flight are not flying daily on sadqa around the world.

On the contrary we if something good happens we take full credit for that like if we narrowly escape a accident we tell stories to people how “we” did the right thing. Or when someone succeeds in business or accomplish something good we take full responsibility for that or when we do any good thing we make sure people see how Good, Competent and Intelligent we are and this makes me wonder that are we Humans really a Hypocrite by nature?

If we won’t take responsibility for our faults and if we cannot figure out the causes of a failure we cannot improve as a individual and also as a nation. Think about it.

Mubbashir Sajjad

When to Quit

Put a frog in a vessel of water and start heating the water...

- As the temperature of the water rises, the frog is able to adjust its body temperature accordingly...

- The frog keeps on adjusting with increase in temperature...

- Just when the water is about to reach boiling point, the frog is not able to adjust anymore...

- At that point the frog decides to jump out...

- The frog tries to jump but is unable to do so, because it lost all its strength in adjusting with the water temperature...

- Very soon the frog dies. What killed the frog?

Many of us would say the boiling water...But the truth is what killed the frog was its own inability to decide when it had to jump out...

We all need to adjust with people and situations, but we need to be sure when we need to adjust and when we need to confront / face or even consciously move out/ on...

There are times when we need to face the situation and take the appropriate action...Fight it & do it with all your honestly, sincerity and full force

On the other side, if you are 110% sure that environment is beyond control or the objective is not providing adequate incentive…leave your ego, quit and move on to more productive cause in life.

Not only this will avoid your unnecessary suffering, this make you a better and balanced leader of your life and task in hand

So, decide when to jump or adjust...

Important Things in life

A philosophy professor stood before his class with some items on the table in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with rocks, about 2 inches in diameter.

He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles, of course, rolled into the open areas between the rocks.

He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up the remaining open areas of the jar.

He then asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous “Yes.”

“Now,” said the professor, “I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The rocks are the important things – your family, your partner, your health, your children – things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter – like your job, your house, your car. The sand is everything else, the small stuff.”

“If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued, “there is no room for the pebbles or the rocks. The same goes for your life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take your partner out dancing. There will always be time to go to work, clean the house, give a dinner party, or fix the disposal.”

“Take care of the rocks first – the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”

Happiness and Sorrow

A man who has gone out of his town comes back and finds that his house is on fire. It was one of the most beautiful houses in the town, and the man loved the house the most! Many were ready to give a double price for the house, but he had never agreed for any price and now it is just burning before his eyes. And thousands of people have gathered, but nothing can be done, the fire has spread so far that even if you try to put it out, nothing will be saved. So he became very sad.

His son comes running and whispers something in his ear, “Don’t be worried. I sold it yesterday and at a very good price. The offer was so good, I could not wait for you. Forgive me.”
The Father said, “thank God, it’s not ours now!” Then he became relaxed and stood as a silent watcher, just like 1000s of other watchers.
Then the second son comes running, and he says to the father, “What are you doing? the house is on fire and you are only watching it burn?” The father said, “Don’t you know, your brother has sold it.”
He said, “we have taken only advance amount, not settled fully. I doubt now that the man is going to purchase it now.”

Tears which had disappeared came back to the father’s eyes, his heart started to beat fast. And then the third son comes, and he says, “That man is a man of his word. I have just come from him.” He said, “It doesn’t matter whether the house is burnt or not, it is mine. And I am going to pay the price that I have settled for. Neither you knew, nor I knew that the house would catch on fire.”
Then all just stood and watched the house burn without a worry.

Moral:  This is a very complicated human nature to describe. Even though person here loved his house which he lost, became relaxed knowing it was not his anymore. He never wanted to give it away till it was beautiful but, as soon as it started to lose its beauty, he didn’t mind letting it go for a profit.   Sorrow and Happiness followed after each son came with their advice. But, most important thing to understand is, how his feeling changed.  How the ratio of loss and profit changed his feelings towards a house, which he loved the most.  This is how in present time we have come to give a priority to our relations and friendship – based on loss or profit ratio.  Everyone should understand this story and put their own moral

Life like bubble of water

life is like a bubble of water...it has a specific time period after that it finishes just like a bubble of water which vanishes like it was never there....one day sooner or later we will die and after that with in a week even our family will forget us and after that no one will know we were even there and its a fact of life...i just realized that life is short and we take tension of tomorrow ,some are dying to get job,some are having depressions and anxieties,some are worried of their children's future,some are struggling to do what they wanted to do in their life(including me)...in short i want to say is that most of the people i see around myself are not just living the present moment of life...its so ironic that we are living a life with a little happiness and more with tension and worry...life is a bubble of water we should live it as it should be,so that at the time of death we should not take any regrets in heart.

Four year journey

Today I got my bachelors degree and I am feeling very happy because it was a very long, testing and tough four years journey for me…the story starts with my first semester….. I was very confident student with a high self esteem and self respect but who’s going to know that in coming years I have to face very crucial time  and as the time passes  first I realized that the course I have to study is not of my type or somewhat on technical side like it had mathematics and programming etc and I always used to hate maths specially…so as  the time passes I started getting low grades (as expected) and at the end of first semester my self esteem and self respect was very much damaged and with damaged respect i start losing my confidence because I started seeing myself as a looser… with the start of second semester I decided firmly that I will study and aimed for scoring good grades so that I can be in good books of all my class mates but nature has its own plans for us…so at the start of second semester my father suffered a swear heart attack (and I didn’t really told anyone in class & now I wonder how fool I used to be)….at that time I lost complete focus from my studies because i used to look after my family business in morning and used to attend classes in evening and I was really unable to focus on study  and at the end of second semester  i was not only fail in one subject but I was also came on probation….with the start of third semester I had two challenges to deal with one was to score some good marks so that university can’t kick me out and the other one was to gain back my self respect and self esteem so that I can walk and talk with my class mates confidently and proudly. It was a very tough time for me I used to think of if & else situations like if I hadn’t took admission in this course or if I am unable to get good marks then university will throw me out and many things like that…I used to think “if” committing suicide is not harram(illegal)  then I would had done that and many other things like this….but I proved my self to be tough enough and I scored enough marks to continue my study…with the start of fourth semester nothing was really changed except that I start writing articles on blog and started expressing  my feelings ,frustration and thinking…fifth ,sixth & seventh semester’s were  alright because I started scoring marks and some respect plus some self confidence………sixth semester I was totally torn apart from inside because my self confidence was broken in pieces , I was like a boy looking for someone to help me  understand me and motivate me…from sixth semester onwards I tried my best and scored some very good marks in many subjects and with the start of my last  semester i started feeling quite confident about my self  and now when I am graduated I am confident as I was in first semester….just thinking what I got and what I lost..

Free Your self

You know what there will always be someone willing to hurt you, put you down, gossip about you, belittle your accomplishments and judge your soul. It is a fact that we all must face. However, if you realize that God is a best friend that stands beside you when others throw stones you will never be afraid, never feel worthless and never feel alone..
before you can live freely a part of you has to die. You have to let go of what could have been, how you should have acted and what you wish you would have said differently. You have to accept that you can’t change the past experiences, opinions of others at that moment in time or outcomes from their choices or yours. When you finally recognize that truth then you will understand the true meaning of forgiveness of yourself and others. From this point you will finally be free...