Why Blame God For Our Own Faults

I have been trying to figure out why so many of us are incompetent and lazy and i have found a very interesting reason for that.  We as a Muslims have a firm believe that everything that happens to us either good or bad, somehow all the time, God is responsible for all our actions for example like when someone dies in a car accident we say that it was a God’s will without realizing that it was the fault of our own because we were over speeding and we broke the red light or when someone fails in business or when someone doesn’t gets a job or when a Air Plane carrying 148 Passengers crashes we always say it’s a God will and make ourselves feel good and move on. This is how we easily blame God for all our faults, incompetence, inability and inefficiency and we never take any responsibility for our actions. We don’t focus on the harsh realities that were actually the cause of bad things. Just like PIA cannot save lives only by doing sadqa(Charity to prevent bad things) before flight it can do it by improving technical maintenance of Air planes because one lac flight are not flying daily on sadqa around the world.

On the contrary we if something good happens we take full credit for that like if we narrowly escape a accident we tell stories to people how “we” did the right thing. Or when someone succeeds in business or accomplish something good we take full responsibility for that or when we do any good thing we make sure people see how Good, Competent and Intelligent we are and this makes me wonder that are we Humans really a Hypocrite by nature?

If we won’t take responsibility for our faults and if we cannot figure out the causes of a failure we cannot improve as a individual and also as a nation. Think about it.

Mubbashir Sajjad

When to Quit

Put a frog in a vessel of water and start heating the water...

- As the temperature of the water rises, the frog is able to adjust its body temperature accordingly...

- The frog keeps on adjusting with increase in temperature...

- Just when the water is about to reach boiling point, the frog is not able to adjust anymore...

- At that point the frog decides to jump out...

- The frog tries to jump but is unable to do so, because it lost all its strength in adjusting with the water temperature...

- Very soon the frog dies. What killed the frog?

Many of us would say the boiling water...But the truth is what killed the frog was its own inability to decide when it had to jump out...

We all need to adjust with people and situations, but we need to be sure when we need to adjust and when we need to confront / face or even consciously move out/ on...

There are times when we need to face the situation and take the appropriate action...Fight it & do it with all your honestly, sincerity and full force

On the other side, if you are 110% sure that environment is beyond control or the objective is not providing adequate incentive…leave your ego, quit and move on to more productive cause in life.

Not only this will avoid your unnecessary suffering, this make you a better and balanced leader of your life and task in hand

So, decide when to jump or adjust...

Important Things in life

A philosophy professor stood before his class with some items on the table in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with rocks, about 2 inches in diameter.

He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles, of course, rolled into the open areas between the rocks.

He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up the remaining open areas of the jar.

He then asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous “Yes.”

“Now,” said the professor, “I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The rocks are the important things – your family, your partner, your health, your children – things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter – like your job, your house, your car. The sand is everything else, the small stuff.”

“If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued, “there is no room for the pebbles or the rocks. The same goes for your life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take your partner out dancing. There will always be time to go to work, clean the house, give a dinner party, or fix the disposal.”

“Take care of the rocks first – the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”

Happiness and Sorrow

A man who has gone out of his town comes back and finds that his house is on fire. It was one of the most beautiful houses in the town, and the man loved the house the most! Many were ready to give a double price for the house, but he had never agreed for any price and now it is just burning before his eyes. And thousands of people have gathered, but nothing can be done, the fire has spread so far that even if you try to put it out, nothing will be saved. So he became very sad.

His son comes running and whispers something in his ear, “Don’t be worried. I sold it yesterday and at a very good price. The offer was so good, I could not wait for you. Forgive me.”
The Father said, “thank God, it’s not ours now!” Then he became relaxed and stood as a silent watcher, just like 1000s of other watchers.
Then the second son comes running, and he says to the father, “What are you doing? the house is on fire and you are only watching it burn?” The father said, “Don’t you know, your brother has sold it.”
He said, “we have taken only advance amount, not settled fully. I doubt now that the man is going to purchase it now.”

Tears which had disappeared came back to the father’s eyes, his heart started to beat fast. And then the third son comes, and he says, “That man is a man of his word. I have just come from him.” He said, “It doesn’t matter whether the house is burnt or not, it is mine. And I am going to pay the price that I have settled for. Neither you knew, nor I knew that the house would catch on fire.”
Then all just stood and watched the house burn without a worry.

Moral:  This is a very complicated human nature to describe. Even though person here loved his house which he lost, became relaxed knowing it was not his anymore. He never wanted to give it away till it was beautiful but, as soon as it started to lose its beauty, he didn’t mind letting it go for a profit.   Sorrow and Happiness followed after each son came with their advice. But, most important thing to understand is, how his feeling changed.  How the ratio of loss and profit changed his feelings towards a house, which he loved the most.  This is how in present time we have come to give a priority to our relations and friendship – based on loss or profit ratio.  Everyone should understand this story and put their own moral