Why Blame God For Our Own Faults

I have been trying to figure out why so many of us are incompetent and lazy and i have found a very interesting reason for that.  We as a Muslims have a firm believe that everything that happens to us either good or bad, somehow all the time, God is responsible for all our actions for example like when someone dies in a car accident we say that it was a God’s will without realizing that it was the fault of our own because we were over speeding and we broke the red light or when someone fails in business or when someone doesn’t gets a job or when a Air Plane carrying 148 Passengers crashes we always say it’s a God will and make ourselves feel good and move on. This is how we easily blame God for all our faults, incompetence, inability and inefficiency and we never take any responsibility for our actions. We don’t focus on the harsh realities that were actually the cause of bad things. Just like PIA cannot save lives only by doing sadqa(Charity to prevent bad things) before flight it can do it by improving technical maintenance of Air planes because one lac flight are not flying daily on sadqa around the world.

On the contrary we if something good happens we take full credit for that like if we narrowly escape a accident we tell stories to people how “we” did the right thing. Or when someone succeeds in business or accomplish something good we take full responsibility for that or when we do any good thing we make sure people see how Good, Competent and Intelligent we are and this makes me wonder that are we Humans really a Hypocrite by nature?

If we won’t take responsibility for our faults and if we cannot figure out the causes of a failure we cannot improve as a individual and also as a nation. Think about it.

Mubbashir Sajjad

When to Quit

Put a frog in a vessel of water and start heating the water...

- As the temperature of the water rises, the frog is able to adjust its body temperature accordingly...

- The frog keeps on adjusting with increase in temperature...

- Just when the water is about to reach boiling point, the frog is not able to adjust anymore...

- At that point the frog decides to jump out...

- The frog tries to jump but is unable to do so, because it lost all its strength in adjusting with the water temperature...

- Very soon the frog dies. What killed the frog?

Many of us would say the boiling water...But the truth is what killed the frog was its own inability to decide when it had to jump out...

We all need to adjust with people and situations, but we need to be sure when we need to adjust and when we need to confront / face or even consciously move out/ on...

There are times when we need to face the situation and take the appropriate action...Fight it & do it with all your honestly, sincerity and full force

On the other side, if you are 110% sure that environment is beyond control or the objective is not providing adequate incentive…leave your ego, quit and move on to more productive cause in life.

Not only this will avoid your unnecessary suffering, this make you a better and balanced leader of your life and task in hand

So, decide when to jump or adjust...

Important Things in life

A philosophy professor stood before his class with some items on the table in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with rocks, about 2 inches in diameter.

He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles, of course, rolled into the open areas between the rocks.

He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up the remaining open areas of the jar.

He then asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous “Yes.”

“Now,” said the professor, “I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The rocks are the important things – your family, your partner, your health, your children – things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter – like your job, your house, your car. The sand is everything else, the small stuff.”

“If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued, “there is no room for the pebbles or the rocks. The same goes for your life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take your partner out dancing. There will always be time to go to work, clean the house, give a dinner party, or fix the disposal.”

“Take care of the rocks first – the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”

Happiness and Sorrow

A man who has gone out of his town comes back and finds that his house is on fire. It was one of the most beautiful houses in the town, and the man loved the house the most! Many were ready to give a double price for the house, but he had never agreed for any price and now it is just burning before his eyes. And thousands of people have gathered, but nothing can be done, the fire has spread so far that even if you try to put it out, nothing will be saved. So he became very sad.

His son comes running and whispers something in his ear, “Don’t be worried. I sold it yesterday and at a very good price. The offer was so good, I could not wait for you. Forgive me.”
The Father said, “thank God, it’s not ours now!” Then he became relaxed and stood as a silent watcher, just like 1000s of other watchers.
Then the second son comes running, and he says to the father, “What are you doing? the house is on fire and you are only watching it burn?” The father said, “Don’t you know, your brother has sold it.”
He said, “we have taken only advance amount, not settled fully. I doubt now that the man is going to purchase it now.”

Tears which had disappeared came back to the father’s eyes, his heart started to beat fast. And then the third son comes, and he says, “That man is a man of his word. I have just come from him.” He said, “It doesn’t matter whether the house is burnt or not, it is mine. And I am going to pay the price that I have settled for. Neither you knew, nor I knew that the house would catch on fire.”
Then all just stood and watched the house burn without a worry.

Moral:  This is a very complicated human nature to describe. Even though person here loved his house which he lost, became relaxed knowing it was not his anymore. He never wanted to give it away till it was beautiful but, as soon as it started to lose its beauty, he didn’t mind letting it go for a profit.   Sorrow and Happiness followed after each son came with their advice. But, most important thing to understand is, how his feeling changed.  How the ratio of loss and profit changed his feelings towards a house, which he loved the most.  This is how in present time we have come to give a priority to our relations and friendship – based on loss or profit ratio.  Everyone should understand this story and put their own moral

Life like bubble of water

life is like a bubble of water...it has a specific time period after that it finishes just like a bubble of water which vanishes like it was never there....one day sooner or later we will die and after that with in a week even our family will forget us and after that no one will know we were even there and its a fact of life...i just realized that life is short and we take tension of tomorrow ,some are dying to get job,some are having depressions and anxieties,some are worried of their children's future,some are struggling to do what they wanted to do in their life(including me)...in short i want to say is that most of the people i see around myself are not just living the present moment of life...its so ironic that we are living a life with a little happiness and more with tension and worry...life is a bubble of water we should live it as it should be,so that at the time of death we should not take any regrets in heart.

Four year journey

Today I got my bachelors degree and I am feeling very happy because it was a very long, testing and tough four years journey for me…the story starts with my first semester….. I was very confident student with a high self esteem and self respect but who’s going to know that in coming years I have to face very crucial time  and as the time passes  first I realized that the course I have to study is not of my type or somewhat on technical side like it had mathematics and programming etc and I always used to hate maths specially…so as  the time passes I started getting low grades (as expected) and at the end of first semester my self esteem and self respect was very much damaged and with damaged respect i start losing my confidence because I started seeing myself as a looser… with the start of second semester I decided firmly that I will study and aimed for scoring good grades so that I can be in good books of all my class mates but nature has its own plans for us…so at the start of second semester my father suffered a swear heart attack (and I didn’t really told anyone in class & now I wonder how fool I used to be)….at that time I lost complete focus from my studies because i used to look after my family business in morning and used to attend classes in evening and I was really unable to focus on study  and at the end of second semester  i was not only fail in one subject but I was also came on probation….with the start of third semester I had two challenges to deal with one was to score some good marks so that university can’t kick me out and the other one was to gain back my self respect and self esteem so that I can walk and talk with my class mates confidently and proudly. It was a very tough time for me I used to think of if & else situations like if I hadn’t took admission in this course or if I am unable to get good marks then university will throw me out and many things like that…I used to think “if” committing suicide is not harram(illegal)  then I would had done that and many other things like this….but I proved my self to be tough enough and I scored enough marks to continue my study…with the start of fourth semester nothing was really changed except that I start writing articles on blog and started expressing  my feelings ,frustration and thinking…fifth ,sixth & seventh semester’s were  alright because I started scoring marks and some respect plus some self confidence………sixth semester I was totally torn apart from inside because my self confidence was broken in pieces , I was like a boy looking for someone to help me  understand me and motivate me…from sixth semester onwards I tried my best and scored some very good marks in many subjects and with the start of my last  semester i started feeling quite confident about my self  and now when I am graduated I am confident as I was in first semester….just thinking what I got and what I lost..

Free Your self

You know what there will always be someone willing to hurt you, put you down, gossip about you, belittle your accomplishments and judge your soul. It is a fact that we all must face. However, if you realize that God is a best friend that stands beside you when others throw stones you will never be afraid, never feel worthless and never feel alone..
before you can live freely a part of you has to die. You have to let go of what could have been, how you should have acted and what you wish you would have said differently. You have to accept that you can’t change the past experiences, opinions of others at that moment in time or outcomes from their choices or yours. When you finally recognize that truth then you will understand the true meaning of forgiveness of yourself and others. From this point you will finally be free...

What I Say to Myself

You know what...Whenever I get worried or whenever another person makes me worry, I remember the lines of a famous sufi writer (and a former bureaucrat). And when I do that, I manage to smile and move on. The writer said that whenever an individual is worried, whenever he feels perturbed or helpless, he should say to himself a particular English phrase — and if he does that, it will help. And that English phrase is ‘let it go’.

At first, I was quite skeptical about this whole exercise — how could simply saying a phrase alter how I was feeling at a particular point in time? However, I tried it and was startled by the results. For instance, if someone was rude to me normally I would flare up and get angry but before exhibiting that sentiment I tried saying ‘let it go’ over and over to myself. And lo and behold — the anger that had surfaced in me soon subsided and I was able to move past it.

Now, whenever someone is rude to me, or puts me down, or makes a fool of me, or takes away my rights, instead of getting angry and seeking revenge all I do is say this phrase repeatedly to myself and it becomes alright. The more I thought about my reaction to the use of this phrase, the more I began to realise that most of my issues and problems have an ‘expiry date’. Now this can vary from problem to problem but if I act patiently, not react in a negative manner and wait out the said period then the problem automatically gets resolved.

As for the writer who came up with this phrase, it is none other than the author ofShahabnama, Qudratullah Shahab. His autobiography created a stir not only in Urdu literature but also in contemporary society so much so that there will hardly be an educated person in Pakistan today who has not heard of him.

Some Thing Inside From Heart

 I've looked out a lot of windows and watched thousands of people. I've loved...and lost in love. I've lived happiness and experienced sadness. I've dealt with deep pain and shared deep thoughts. I lost my best friend and had best friends who lost me. I lived in a negative world with suicide on the tip of my tongue, but my mind decided to focus on the positive and let Allah make that decision for me. I have a personal relationship with my Allah, because no one knows me like he does and no one cares like he does. I am real and I am me....I'm still not sure who that is, but when I wonder about myself, I smile. I've made it this far and....... I've come a long way...
Right now, there are people all over the world who are just like me. They’re lonely. They’re missing somebody. They’re in love with someone they probably shouldn’t be in love with. They have secrets you wouldn’t believe. They wish and they dream and they hope, and they look out the window whenever they’re in the car or on a bus or a train and they watch people on the streets and wonder what they’ve been through. They wonder if there are people out there like them. They’re like you, and you could tell them everything and they would understand.
 

What we Are

You know what there are about 18 million people in this country and each one them have their own Islam and they think their Islam is right....Just like that one of my teacher in university whose Islam seems to start with beard and ends on Jeans..He thinks that Wearing Jeans and pants is not allowed in Islam because it is a dress of non believers and we should not wear it ....  you know i can literally prove it  that its not like that but leave it i am not gonna get into that....okay fine even if he is right, problem is one half year passed and no one changed accordingly and doesn't listen to the respected teacher teachings by heart at all why???

The answer is because he him self lacks some basic things of religion, humanity and character which are also very important from which other think how good human you are and consequently a good Muslim, like he is an intolerant man he often show anger on small things like once he betrayed and abused our class Cr badly....he even doesn't have tolerance to respect and listen to other point of view,he thinks what he think is right and that's hell of a bad thing its self....he is also not equal to all the students in class like once in exam i asked him about a question given in exam and he said "i dont know" and after few minutes when same question was asked by female topper of the class he guided her now what is this,...he said to me recently"don't argue with me" now what is this? this can't be one sided otherwise no one will listen to him..In Islam back biting is also strictly not allowed but we do it anyway, in Islam telling a lie is also a sin but we daily lie on small small things,in Islam smoking, drinking ,bad thinking, is also not allowed by we do it any way. In Islam snatching others Right is also not allowed and many many more.Islam is a complete way of life it is not limited to jeans and pants there are other things too.

Tell me "if one person who is having beard and wear "Islamic dressing" but he is not tolerant to other people and hurt others feelings,who doesn't respect other point of view and is also not fair and who back bit on people and lie and who doesn't care about his neighbors and do other wrong things is "Good" or the one who wears jeans and does not do anything mentioned above...

The thing i want to say is that we need to show some character first...if you analyze first 40 years before Rasalat of Prophet Muhammad(P.B.U.H) he first developed his character to people..

why our approach is so Rigid and hard and not flexible....there are many examples i can cote here about flexibility in Islam but leave........(to be continued).

Ashoka Rocks

You know what the city where i live have some real historic things to see and whenever I see those historic things many questions pop up in my mind and with those questions i always feel so low at times….one of those historic things are Ashoka rocks which i often see coming back from university to home.Ashoka rocks were built by king named as Ashoka around 5000 BC.

On those big monuments king ashoka commandments are carved in sanseckrit language.now i often pass by to those monuments and think that this place was there 5000 years ago and its still there the mountains located here are still there a stream behind those rocks is there by by don't know how many millenniums and i think 5000 years back people like us were living here and up to now millions of people have born and died and many of them were very great than us in their own way but now in today's age no one knows who they were?and then i think one day just like those people when i die,shall my name vanish like millions of those people before?this thought makes me sad but also motivate me to do something in life before it end like umera ahmed said "zindagi main ap ke entry jaisi marzi ho exit shandar honi chaheay,dramatic,tragic,naqabil e faramosh"...and summing up with the words of Haidar ali Atish:
                                                         "Na gor-e-Sikandar, na qabar-e-dara
                                                          Mitay naamion kay nishaan kaisay kaisay."

Second Half of Chess Board

Chess was invented by Seeza during the rule of ghuppta family rule in sub-continent and with its invention a very interesting story is related....seeza went to the king with the game of chess,king liked game and gave seeza the right to name his prize for the invention.....seeza thought for a second and asked my lord"some grains of wheat"...king asked what do u mean?seeza asked my lord,fill the squares of chess with grains but according to my formula which is that for the first square of the chess board, he would receive one grain of wheat , two for the second one, four on the third one,eight on fourth on and so on, doubling the amount each time untill the last 64 column. The ruler, arithmetically unaware, quickly accepted the inventor's offer, even getting offended by his perceived notion that the inventor was asking for such a low price, and ordered the treasurer to count and hand over the wheat to the inventor.....when the mathematicians of king reached at the end of fourth row the wheat of grains in whole country got finished.....when the treasurer took more than a week to calculate the amount of wheat, the ruler asked him for a reason for his tardiness.treasurer explained that it would take more than all the assets of the kingdom to give the inventor the reward but they were unable to tell king exact amount of grains a 64 squares will take....this was approximated by Bill gates after 3500 years he says that if we put nineteen zeros in front of 1,this amount is the total amount of grains a 64 squares of chess will contain...according to bill gates if we put 1 billion grains in one container then we will need 18 billion containers to reach total amount and to count those grains we will need 2 million years......now what happens to inventor of chess seeza,well,when king reaches on fourth row he ordered seeza to arrest and further he was killed and that's how inventor of chess died.

20 sec reading

A master asked his disciples:
‘Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?’

the disciples thought for a while, and one of them said
‘Because we lose our calm, we shout for that.’
‘But, why to shout when the other person is just next to you? ‘Isn’t it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? Why do you shout at a person when you’re angry?’
The disciples gave him some other answers but none satisfied the master.

Finally he explained:
‘When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other through that great distance.’

Then the master asked:
‘What happens when two people fall in love? They don’t shout at each other but talk softly, why? Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small…’

And he concluded:
‘When they love each other even more, what happens?
‘They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love.

‘Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that’s all. That is how close two people are when they love each other...’
 

Our society is Negative

our society is negative....we always perceive things in negative context....today when one of my teacher asked me why you were absent yesterday and i told him that i was ill he responded like i am making him fool....there are many examples like this we face day to day like one of my class fellow wants to know whether i made assignment or not i said no but he was again and again insisting to give assignment....the point is we always think negative while western society is positive if a person ask i haven't had gas            
supply last month they cut the bill of that person without any inquiry they will not ask him that he is doing a fraud or it story is bullshit or go and check meter while if that happens in our country they would have consider it a fabricated story and will go to check gas meter.we don't take complain of any person in positive
sense we always think negative this is what my observation is and this is what is think.

The Alchemist

Recently i read the novel "the alchemist" by paulo coelho and i think this novel have very wise messages for us very close to reality ...it tells us about finding destinies and to achieve them by natures signs and omens...it tells you that evey human is unique than other in every scheme the way we talk the way we walk the way we think and the way do things and like wise we all have different destinies coded by nature and way to find those is very simple just look for what you love to do in you daily life even if you are a sehfered and love travelling...just figure it out,,follow that and than see the whole world will help you to achieve that we have to take first step for that...it also tell us about the language of nature which always communicates to us through signs and omens we just have to focous/observe on whats happening around us....and finally it tell us that those who follow their destinies finally becomes alchemists in their own field....and above all what i like most in it that it tell us that always do what your heart says,do what you think is right,the way you think is also unique instead of what other say...

And i think if i dare to do what it teaches to follow destiny...for that i have to hurt many people and then it forces me to think that life is much different from novels,movies and dramas..:)

Point of view.

An educated person is one who have his own point of view in all matters of life......3000 years back in Athens there were too many philosophers and every evening regular debates were conducted and at that time there was a philosopher named as Socrates and he at that time defined human as "Straight and walk on two legs" and at that time there was another philosopher name as thewjhans'kalbi,he was blind kalbi was the name of his dog,one day he approaches to Socrates with hen in one hand..he straightened up hen with pulling up beak and said to Socrates look,here is your human because it is straight and also it is on two legs..:)...now what happens is that there are some words which came in our mind or someone else told us something or we think that he was very wise human or philosopher the whole world recognize him 3000 back and we should also believe in what he had said and sometimes what happens is that we believe on him and build our whole philosophy on that and sometimes we get to know that his philosophy was wrong and after that we feel very bad and get a sort of psychological sock...so i think as Allah has given us mind so we should have to make our own point of view,what will be the difference if i will make my own opinion,why i need to carry the point of view of Socrates,Aristotle,Bernard shah or Shakespear...i also have my own mind na and my mind can be/will be much better than them in the sense because Socrates,Aristotle and thewjhans;kalbi  they were 3000 years old people and of that time e.g pants,nail cutter or scissor isn't in use so why to believe in there thoughts as it is....if someone ask us definition of human we very comfortably say "a social animal" a 3000 years old definition of Socrates but what is your point of view.....?

Earth quack 2005

Today is 8th of October and i cant forget this day because exactly seven years back in 2005 we faced the horrible earth quack of the Pakistan's history which was of magnitude 7.6 in which more than 75000 people died.That day was same like all the other days and i was in school and our saturday was on and it was the first day of ramazan and we were in class and suddenly when it occured it was of so high intensity that when i saw turned back the desks were like dancing and there was so much horrible noise..when i ran out of the class i remember that a thought came in my mind  that "Run this building will collapse,.." when we reached at the ground i remember the floor was sort of vibrating after that there was a sort of noise in earth and when i reached home the things i saw are not explainable after every five minutes the aftershocks were very horrible...at evening we moved to mamo home the whole night we had not slept,the aftershocks were too frequent...mobile service was down we were very worried about other relatives...

the whole scene after 3 days of earth quack is another long story...   

Back in mind

In child hood while playing with my brother suddenly his finger struck in my eye and i remember how bad that felt...when i grown up a little while playing badminton with my cousin suddenly shuttle hit on my eye and i remembered that was very painful...now recently one and half years back while playing cricket suddenly ball reflected and struck in my eye...nooo!..that was also very painful and now there is some sort of fear in the back of my mind whenever i play cricket, badminton and when i cross stairs of my home in front of which there is a sort of pointed metal and always a thought came in my mind that if u fall from here then u may injure ur eye...God forbid,...and with that all the memories get refreshed.....brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.....how to run away with that fear...

But now i always thank to Allah,millions of times for protecting and pray to keep protecting....

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Younger sister..a joy..

You know what younger sister is a joy..i have a younger sister to whom i enjoy different flavors of life sometime when she want something she shows love and says "my cute brother"and sometimes when she quarrel she says "u are so stupid"...sometimes we play,dance and sing with each other and sometimes you are forced to face her stubborn attitude and do exactly what she says...on Eid,birthday or any event she force me to give money or gifts and sometimes u are emotionally black mailed.:) and sometime she shares her secrets with you....most of all,she is your friend and you adore her..

A sister is someone who loves you from the heart,

No matter how much you argue you cannot be drawn apart.

She is a joy that cannot be taken away,

Once she enters your life, she is there to stay.

When she is by your side, the world is filled with life,

When she is not around, your days are full of strife.

A sister is a blessing, who fills your heart with love,

She flies with you in life with the beauty of a dove.

A friend to whom you can express your feelings,

She doesn’t let you get bored at family dealings.

Whether you are having your ups or downs,

She always helps you with a smile and never frowns.

Protest against Staire American movie

New American movie insulting the greatest man in history..the prophet Muhammad peace be upon him , I will say  you can do whatever you want since you are a powerful country (even you lost 2 wars against Muslims in Afghanistan and Iraq) , but since our puppet governments are cowards , you can act freely. But i want to tell America that those stupid movies make the world hate American people more and more , everyday American people become more isolated than before , i feel pity for many innocent American people who will be hated by the world because of those stupid irresponsible acts of haters ... Those enemies of Islam lost all debates against Muslims that is why they started an impolite war against Islam Come and make debates with Muslims if you think that you are right ! why don't you dare trying ?!! i know why you cant The best proof that we are in the right path is that we don't dare insult Jesus P.b.u.h as a revenge because we love him a and believe in him as a prophet with all other prophets .. Alhamdulillah i am Muslim , i am on a right path ...

One last word , you are trying to insult the greatest man in history , you can not touch him and you will not reach the value of his shoes , so die in your rage , Muhammad peace be upon him is the best man in history , and he is in the highest rank in paradise..